Love is a passionate feeling of attraction towards something or somebody. There are so many kinds of love; love of parents to their children, God’s love to humanity, love for an earthly thing, love of oneself, and of course romantic love.
Love is a need. From Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of basic human needs, there are four basic needs of human being: physiological needs, security, love and belongingness, and self-actualization. When we say need, it is something essential for living. Because love is a necessity, people should have love. But what part of our body really experience this feeling?
For me, love is just an act of the will not of the heart. If we say will, it means the mind controls the act of loving.
The heart is merely a blood-pumping organ of the body. It pumps blood that carries oxygen throughout the body. The central nervous system controls all other systems in our body. The brain controls the functioning of each part of the body. Therefore, without brain, other parts of our body cannot function including the heart. And with this, I can say that mind controls love.
According to Arthur W. Toga, the brain is the control center for movement, sleep, hunger, thirst, and virtually every other vital activity necessary to survival. All human emotions—including LOVE, hate, fear, anger, elation, and sadness—are controlled by the brain.
In arranged or fixed marriage, love is really an act of the will not of the heart. People choose to be with the person whom their parents want rather than with the person whom they really want to be with. If you want to do something, you must love it. Like in our lessons, if we want to learn Mathematics, we must love it. At first, it is hard to force yourself to do something that you do not like, but through time, you will really learn how. Loving somebody is a process that takes time.
And if love is an act of the heart, you will not choose the person you love. However, most of the times, we choose the person whom we love. In choosing the right person to be loved, we used our brain. We do not use our hearts in selecting the people whom we want to love.
I can also say that love is definitely an act of the will not of the heart because for me, love is not blind. If love is blind, it does not see what is right. Love in this manner is not love at all; it is stupidity. Love seeks for what is right.
And lastly, love is truly an act of the will not of the heart because we decide whom to love, where to love and when to love. We choose the right timing. We do not love somebody as if we are just eating and if we do not like the taste, we will just vomit it. We need to look at the different aspects of life that can be affected in loving somebody. We weigh the advantages and disadvantages before deciding.
Love is an act of the will not of the heart!!
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