Power of Tears

As days pass by, you meet new challenges. You should be strong enough to face all of these and never give up. But when you really feel tired and stressed because of all the problems that you are facing, what will you do?

Many people say that crying is not a sign of weakness but instead it is a sign of strength. But I really disagree with that. For me when you cry it simply means you give up with all your obstacles. Life is just a game and you should not cry when you loss. Crying implies quitting. And if you quit in the game of life, you will never win and succeed.

When I see other people cry, I say that they are very weak. I do not want to cry because I am afraid that people would also think that I am weak. I was not weak. I am not weak. And I will never be weak.

But all these perceptions change when I started crying almost every night. I feel that all people surrounding me are very bad to me. I easily get hurt with their comments. When somebody feels bad about me, my tears easily drip off from my eyes. I feel that I am so bad when I offended someone. And when somebody cries, I also cry. It seems like crying is very contagious. And when I remember a sad happening of my life, I cry and cry until I sleep.

All those nights that I cried, there were times that I have asked myself why do I cry? Will something change when I cry? Are my problems solved when I cry?

Definitely crying will never solve our problems. It is not the answer to our questions. It will not change our difficult situation. But one thing is for sure; crying relieves the pain you feel inside.

When we cry, we let go of our heart aches. Crying releases our hurts and makes us feel better. It is a defense mechanism called displacement. When we cry, the pains we feel inside are displaced. It is better to cry than to displace all our discomforts in another manner which might affect and hurt other people.

There was this one friend who told me that if I will not cry, all my heart aches will build up. And soon it will occupy my whole heart. Then my heart might burst and may cause nervous breakdown.

I was really thankful for that because it made me realize that there is nothing wrong in crying. It is a good way of keeping our body in the right functioning. God made everything in our bodies unique and functional. The function of our tear ducts is to release tears and at the same time release the pains we feel inside.

So we should not be afraid to cry. Because as we cry, the memories of the bad things in the past are all erased. They will never bother you anymore because you take them away from your system.

Crying also needs too much energy. That is why after crying, we fell asleep. But after that, you will wake up renewed and start the day with a very big smile. You will never be afraid anymore to face life. You start another chapter in your life with a new light.